It’s easy to get lost in the sauce living in a social media world full of wannabes. Instagram is the leading social media platform for spreading the message of who you’re supposed to be and what is acceptable. The essence of authenticity and truth are covered in a facade, that is hard to uphold.
In the middle of January, I began to write a blog post on my website The Chic Chapters (at the time Chic on Wall St.). Mentally along with physically, I wasn’t up to the task.No one knew at the time that my previous job had laid me off. Honestly, how could I keep up this charade of dressing professionally for work, when I wore sweats every day working on my passion projects? I decided to change the name of my website, create a new logo, and present it to my followers. I felt a sense of relief owning up to my truths and facing my already reality.
Living in your truth means doing any and everything that fits your vision. Additionally, it means declining on anything that doesn’t fit into that vision. It takes courage to live a life true to yourself.
Here is a simple four-step process to help you live in your truth…
Accept who & where you are
At this moment, accept the person you are. Breathe and take in where you are in life. More often than not, we idolize our internal checklists. We check off boxes of where we should be and who we should be. 9 times out of 10, we’re not even close. ACCEPT IT. Be okay with where you are in life and the struggles that are to come. Do not become discouraged if you haven’t met the expectations you’ve set for yourself. Eventually, you will become the person you are meant to be. Believe it and live it.
Identify your deepest desires & values
Now that you’ve accepted your current place in life, dig deep and get clear on your core values and desires. What’s meaningful to you? It’s common to fall into the societal norms and values or adhere to what loved ones expect from us. However, external sources should not impose values on you. Your values are just that, YOURS. They are who we are in your own deepest nature. Self-analyzation helps with direction and the reduction of conditioned thoughts and behavioral patterns. Remove the judgment and regret that may come.
*TIP: DO NOT confuse VALUES with GOALS. Values provide a sense of ongoing direction. while goals are what we achieve that have an ending date or time.
Stop seeking validation from others
Besides taking social media cleanses, one must start to embrace their true self. Seeking validation does more harm than people realize. It may feel good to receive outside validation; however, your main source should come from within. Start to actively let go of what others want from you or may think of you and listen to your ‘inner voice’. Realize you are never going to appease EVERYONE. You are more than what you have, the job that you work, your financial status, relationships, etc.
Balance the ups & downs
“I had my ups and downs, but I always find the inner strength to cool myself off. I was served lemons, but I made lemonade” – Hattie Mae White
We heard it best on the Lemonade album. What are you going to do with the lemons life throws at you? With life comes disappointments, pain, death and broken hearts. Comparatively, new opportunities, friendships, love, and happiness balance out the negatives. Establishing a foundation will help you balance the rollercoaster ride of emotions to come.
To simplify, to live a life that is true to you, you must be willing to be completely honest with yourself about who you are and what you value most in life. It won’t be easy, but take ownership of your actions and the decisions you make. Use these four steps as a guide and do not feel guilty for doing what you intuitively feel you should be doing.