If you have ever been consumed with life’s routine and all its daily activities and to-do list, then you know how easy it is to get sucked into living life on the hamster wheel on auto-pilot. This is no way to live, especially because you are most likely a millennial if you’re reading this and should be in the prime of your life, living your best life. But, you’re busy, crazy busy and don’t have time for a whole other routine outside of your norm. Chances are you’re so busy; you forgot to take care of the most important thing on your to-do list, yourself. But guess what? When you prioritize and practice self-care, religiously, daily you are giving others and yourself the best version of YOU!
Don’t know where to start? You can quickly take steps to reclaim your time and take way better care of yourself. Self-care is more than just getting a mani/pedi, taking a hot bath and getting a haircut or a message. Self-care is creating habits that require you to take mindful intervals for a pause, making your intentions, headspace, wants, desires and feelings a top priority. Check out these quick and easy self-care tips for increased wellness and self-care. The best part is that you can put this into practice right away. Remember, they do say anything done consistently for 30 days is a habit.
Stop apologizing for making yourself a priority
Listen, you have to make time for YOU. Your well-being should be your top priority. Sometimes we put things (jobs, promotions, social media or other people) above taking care of ourselves. Stop the madness! You need a refill, and you need it daily. Just like that car you use regularly, you require maintenance and upkeep. Don’t forget to give that to yourself. Your peace, wants, desires and goals need to come first, and you shouldn’t feel sorry about it. Be selfish in nurturing and prioritizing yourself.
This might be a little too “touchy-feely” for some people, but it works, so keep reading. Mothering is the act of taking care of yourself and nourishing yourself at the highest level possible. That means speaking kindly to yourself, listening to yourself, forgiving yourself, giving yourself grace, validating yourself, getting enough rest, practicing radical self-love and being your biggest cheerleader. Ask yourself, “Did I do something special for myself this week, Did I trust my own dopeness, Was I honest with myself?” After all, self- love is the best kind of love.
Find a hobby
Get yourself a hobby. Something that has nothing to do with making money or your job title. I mean something that truly lights you up with wide-eyed, child-like excitement. Make time for your passion project and it will feed your soul and allow for a creative outlet for your day to day to-do list. This should be something that allows you to de-stress and release tension. Think about something that brings you pure joy.
Create a vibe (DJ Khaled taught me). Seriously though this is going to be your self-care vibe. Get in a space by yourself, choose a scent (incense, candle, essential oil diffuser), get into some comfy clothes like your fave sweats or pajamas, curate a soundtrack, clear your mind, get a journal and a devotional. Every time you go to meditate as part of your morning or nightly routine, do all the things and create your vibe. Be intentional about doing this and take note of what works for you and what doesn’t work for you in creating your vibe, during your alone time. Remember, everybody needs at least 20 minutes of alone time to meditate or relax and clear their minds.
Protect your peace
I can’t stress how important it is to set clear boundaries and non-negotiables with the people in your life. People shouldn’t feel entitled to your mental and emotional space anytime they want. This not only helps you understand yourself better and defines what you do and don’t want out of life, but it will also help you set the standard for how you let others treat you. Most importantly, it will help you to nourish healthy relationships and cancel the unhealthy ones. Everyone surrounding you should be for you, supporting you and loving you wholeheartedly.
I am currently reading, How to Recognize and Set Healthy Boundaries by Anne Katherine to help me out with this and it has been so clutched in not only helping me to set healthy boundaries but also in understanding when my boundaries have been violated. My boundaries have both strengthened some of the relationships in my life and helped me to have some crucial conversations in cutting some excess baggage out of my life. This is essential to your mental, emotional and spiritual health and well-being.
Set your intention
Be mindful of your state of mind. Wake up in the morning every day and set the mood and your state of mind for that day. For example, wake up telling yourself you will be kind and grateful. Acknowledge how you desire to feel. When you embody how you want to feel and tap into the feeling, it gives you the power to make clear decisions and create how your day will go. Get clear on how you want to feel before you leave the house every day and don’t let others change those feelings.
You are your top priority. Make an agreement or a promise to yourself that you will make yourself the top priority. Write down how you plan to put yourself in the first place. You deserve to feel good, really you deserve to feel great and be great every day. What would happen if the best version of you showed up every single day?
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