As creatives, sometimes we find ourselves cooped up in our abodes, seemingly isolating ourselves from the outside world. Every once in a while, we need a break – a breath of fresh air.By doing something on the spur of the moment, you’re adding some spice to many aspects of your life!
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That’s right, let’s get started today! Log onto LivingSocial or Groupon, start scrolling through the activities list and purchase the first voucher that catches your eye. It can be anything at all. For me, I saw an ad for Plant Nite and was instantly sold. It turned out to be one the most meaningful experiences I had in a LONG time. Mind you, my thumb is anything other than green, but wine and pretty plants satisfied my curiosity.Put yourself in a new environment, with a new group of people. Oh… and fight that urge to bring a friend. The thought of stepping out of your comfort zone terrifies many – I included. But why wait on someone else to do something that you want to do. Once you begin, you’ll find that you are all you need.
When I booked my voucher for Plant Nite and attended the following day, I had no idea what the experience was going to be like. But without a friend to join in the experience, I walked into the venue – AWKWARD as ever. I looked around and went towards the seat where no one else was sitting. Everyone seemed to be enjoying the company of their friends and not too aware of little ole me. I smiled nervously at whomever I made eye contact with. Luckily for me, another woman came by herself and welcomed me to sit by her. Soon, I felt super comfortable and began socializing with everyone at the table.
Plant Nite was so much fun! The best decision I’ve made in a while – stepping out of comfort zone in a new environment by myself. The only downer was that it ended at about 8:00 PM and I didn’t want to go back to my empty apartment, where I just felt uncreative and unmotivated. I wanted to continue my high. I asked a few friends who lived in the area if they wanted to go to one of the nearby bars. Not surprising, they were all busy. So… on to destination #2!
Continuing stride of patronizing new places by myself and meeting new people, I walked two blocks to a bar. I looked around and soon realized it was still pretty early and empty. I had no intention of staying out too late since I had to go to work the next day. After about 20 minutes of walking around not trying to stick out like a sore thumb, I said to myself, “girl, you got this,” took my seat at the bar, ordered a drink and appetizer, and pulled out my sketchbook. I made it this far so I might as well live in the moment. For some reason, even though I didn’t talk to anybody there other than the bartenders, I was oddly happy. I finally felt creative and full. So many ideas were coming from every direction for new paintings, posts, and projects! I continued writing and sketching.
Your presence is enough
In those moments, I realized what lesson I needed to learn that night – you have to enjoy your own company and thoughts. You are enough. Your presence is enough. You don’t need anybody else to be happy and in the moment. I think that’s all we are looking for when we’re in creative funks. I didn’t even realize that more people came until I got ready to leave about an hour and a half later. Although I was solo, I didn’t feel awkward at all(at least in my humble opinion!). I didn’t feel sad or out of place. That night, I really liked myself – my awkwardness, my new plants, my new sketches, and my quirky encounters. I was proud of myself for stepping out of my comfort zone and doing something on my own time.
Sometimes, you have to see your own growth. Both your life and your creativity manifests itself with a new action. Honestly, this time last year, I probably would’ve have left or cried in the bathroom. My social anxiety was, and sometimes still is, just that bad. It has stopped me from many opportunities in the past. For years, I tried to be less weird and even stopped going out and doing new things unless.Bringing friends and family was my security blanket. I’ve been trying to break out of that fear to be more self-assured in my skin. It took me a long time to accept that I will always be awkward/weird to some degree and there is absolutely nothing’s wrong with that. I’m not too sure if it’s a gift or a curse but that night was confirmation that I’m focusing less on how others perceive me and more about how I feel at the moment.
Essentially, I share my solo excursion to say; it starts with you. It’s time to embrace yourself and step out of your comfort zone. I encourage you all to try new things solo. Don’t be afraid how others will perceive you or wait for other’s to fuel your motivation. Get out there and give yourself new experiences!
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