“Aye man, I am sick of wasting away my early twenties at this desk. I mean what’s the point anyway? I come in early, grab a coffee, work through lunch and leave late and then on top all of that, I don’t even like what I’m doing.” “Well, does anybody really like their job?” “No but listen, bro, I haaattteeee it. If I could man, I would finish that app I started making back in school and just work on that and help companies make other apps. That would be dope and I do it all the time for free!”
What do you mean if you could? Why can’t you?
How many friends do you know have this conversation every single week? I’ve had this conversation with more than half of my friends, so I am writing this for them and you!
Believe in yourself
If you don’t, who will? When creating a great idea, we often follow this vicious circle. Come up with a great idea, look into developing it, see that there’s competition, doubt our ability to penetrate the industry, then talk ourselves out of it. We have to stop this cycle. You know those posters in grade school with some NBA player on them that said, “you miss 100% of the shots you never take”? It may have been corny but the message still holds true. If you don’t take a chance, how will you know if you could actually accomplish what it is that you are setting out to do?
Say it. Claim it. Write it down. For myself, this is the hardest part. A plan, at least a good one, comes from believing that you can execute it. Knowing what you don’t want to do is easy, knowing and putting into action what you actually want to do is more difficult. I have the toughest time organizing a plan. It seems like my head is everywhere and I have so many interests that I don’t know which one I should nurture and grow the most.
Life Tip: If you are an all-over-the-place kind of person like myself, (no judgment) and you have many dreams, cool. Here’s what I did and you can try it. Write each of your dreams/ interests down on separate sheets of paper. Write out the following:
- What it takes to develop it
- How many hours/days/years it will take
- How many hours/days/years are you willing to put in
- Who do you want on your team
- What are you willing to sacrifice
- What have you already sacrificed
Get everything out of your head and out in front of you. Once it’s in front of you, face it. Can you do it, are you prepared to do it and when you finish it, what’s next?
Do you need money for your dream? Yes. But you need money for everything. Remember that. Nobody given the option would choose to struggle, so if you don’t have to; don’t. Stack enough cash to get you in a good place, preferably one with lights and food than a little extra. Once you have your cash together, Go! Collect your $200 and go! If saving is not your strongest area, start small. I’m planning a huge move and I need to save at least $8,000 so I set a goal to save $600 each check. This way it will take me about 8 months to reach my desired goal with two pay periods a month. This is a small measure that will have a huge payout as long as you remember what it is pushing you to keep putting that money aside.
Life Tip: Go to the ATM and withdraw your first $1,000 and put it in a jar. This will do two things for you. One, you will be able to see and touch the money that you’re saving. You can literally hold part of your dream in your hand! Two, any time that you are tempted to take money for anything from that jar, you will think to yourself (hopefully), “I am cheating myself out of the dream” and you’ll put that money back. Just a small visual reminder of your goal to keep things in perspective.
Get out and get it no matter what the costs are financially or figuratively. Your passion and your plan should get you out of bed every morning and make you want to fight going to bed each night. We think to ourselves, wow you should have really done that! Why didn’t you? Be the change agent! The story about why you did something despite adversity will always be a better story then why you let your challenges deter you from your own greatness.
We are our own worst critic. Nobody is going to invite you to sit at a table if you haven’t made yourself a chair. Stop sleeping on yourself. Stop sleeping on your potential. Stop sleeping on your dreams.
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